Grief Counseling in Oakland, CA

We don’t heal from grief; we heal through it.

If we allow it, grief becomes more than a response to loss—it becomes a teacher. It moves through our bodies, our dreams, our relationships, and our identity, asking us to slow down and pay attention.

Whether you’re mourning someone you love, facing a major life transition, or grieving the life you thought you’d have, loss invites deep reflection and surrender. In depth therapy, grief is honored as a form of metamorphosis. It can call you into a more intimate relationship with yourself. It can strip away what no longer serves and reveal what truly matters.

I’m Sara, a depth-oriented psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. I offer grief therapy for individuals navigating all kinds of loss—tangible or symbolic, expected or sudden, named or not yet understood.

Our work together honors your psyche’s natural movement toward healing—not by rushing through pain, but by making space for it to unfold in its own time and form.

Grieving Counseling That Honors What You’ve Lost

Grief isn’t linear. It doesn’t follow a clean set of stages. It can feel like a wave, a punch to the gut, or a dull ache in the background of everything. It might show up in tears, numbness, rage, forgetfulness, exhaustion—or even in laughter that feels out of place.

Sometimes grief takes a shape we didn’t expect. You might be grieving a parent who was never truly there, a childhood you didn’t get to have, or a life that feels just out of reach. You might not even have realized you were grieving until something gave way.

As a grief therapist, I’ve sat with people through all kinds of loss—including those that feel complicated, invisible, or too much to name. I also know how isolating it can feel to carry so much pain when the world around you expects you to “move on” or “stay strong.”

Let me say this clearly: You are not broken for feeling the way you do. Grief is not a sign of weakness. It is love, trying to find a new way to live inside you.

Grief therapy isn’t only for death-related loss.

Our culture tends to associate grief only with death, but it shows up in countless forms. Grief counseling can support you through the death of someone close—but it’s also here for the unspoken, disenfranchised griefs. The losses that aren’t always recognized or validated.

Some of the grief I work with includes:

  • The death of a partner, parent, sibling, child, or friend

  • Grief after suicide

  • Estrangement from family or community

  • Breakups, divorce, and relationship endings

  • Loss of a beloved pet

  • Medical diagnoses

  • Career burnout, retirement, or identity loss

  • Spiritual disillusionment or soul loss

  • Dreams that didn’t come true

  • The ache of what was never said, shared, or received

Grief can be quiet and complex. You may not even realize you’re grieving. Grieving counseling offers a space to name, feel, and begin to integrate what’s been lost—whether or not the world around you sees it.

Grief Counseling for Caregivers and Healthcare Professionals

If you’re in a caregiving role—personally or professionally—you may carry grief in complicated, unspoken ways.

You might be grieving the patients you’ve lost, the suffering you’ve witnessed, or the emotional toll of showing up day after day while feeling disconnected from your own needs. You might mourn the version of yourself that used to feel energized, hopeful, or alive.

As a therapist who works with healthcare providers, therapists, and other caretakers, I understand the unique forms of grief you may be holding. They’re not always obvious—even to you.

Your grief might look like emotional exhaustion. Numbness. Detachment. Overfunctioning. Or a quiet ache that doesn’t quite make sense. You might feel like you’ve lost access to rest, joy, awe—your inner life.

In grief therapy, we make space for the invisible griefs—the ones that live in the body, the ones that don’t have names. Depth work can help you reconnect to your vitality, your purpose, and your right to be cared for too.

Facing the Fear of Opening Up in Grief Therapy

“What if I fall apart?”

“What if it feels strange to open up to a stranger?”

“What if it’s too much—for me, or for you?”

These fears make so much sense. Grief cracks us open. It makes us vulnerable, raw. And sitting across from someone new—especially a therapist—can feel risky when you’re already holding so much.

I want you to know: I don’t expect you to have it all together. You don’t need to come with the right words or a neat story. You can show up quiet. Numb. Angry. Tender. Confused.

I’ll meet you exactly where you are—with gentleness, presence, and care. We go at your pace. Your emotional safety is always a priority.

Normalizing Grief in a Grief-Avoidant Culture

We live in a culture that rewards productivity, self-reliance, and “getting over it.” But real grief doesn’t fit into tidy categories or timelines.

You may wonder if you’re grieving the “right way.” You might feel shame for still feeling sad—or for not feeling sad enough. You may feel pressure to move on while some part of you knows you’re not ready.

Grief counseling offers a countercultural space where all of your feelings are welcome—where there is no one way to mourn, to rage, to remember, or to long. Grief asks us to slow down. Therapy gives you permission to do just that.

Finding the Right Fit in a Grief Therapist

Grief counseling near me isn’t just about location—it’s about connection.

Therapy isn’t only about techniques or insights. It’s about relationship. Especially in grief work, the connection between you and your therapist matters deeply. You deserve someone who can sit with your sorrow without trying to fix or minimize it. Someone who can hold the silence, the tears, the questions, and the complexity of your grief.

My style is warm, intuitive, and grounded in depth psychology. I bring my full presence to each session. I’m not afraid of pain, and I don’t shy away from the unknown. At the same time, I hold a quiet kind of hope—not the kind that urges you forward, but the kind that trusts your process and your inner wisdom.

If you’re searching for grief counseling near me, I encourage you to listen to your gut. Find someone who helps you feel safe, seen, and gently accompanied.

Grief Therapy as a Portal to Aliveness

To grieve fully is to open your heart to life again.

In depth-oriented grief therapy, we don’t treat grief as something to overcome. We allow it to shape you—not into someone “better,” but into someone more whole. Someone more real.

Grief can feel like a collapse, but it’s also a threshold. It asks who you are now, on the other side of love and loss. It invites you to remember, to feel, to deepen.

Together, we’ll honor your pain, your love, and your capacity to heal—at your own pace, in your own way.

We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world – the company of those who have known suffering.
— Helen Keller

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Grief Counseling
in Oakland

516 Oakland Ave
Oakland, CA 94611